What you will learn?
Understand the need for a positive attitude
When working hard, or when things are going wrong with your life, a negative feeling can be born in your mind. Because of that, you may not be able to control your life, and you will face difficulties. If these negative feelings are continuous, it may lead you to the bad feelings like depression.you may lose the chances of getting help from others.you will feel hopeless.so how to bounce back to a happy life?Here I am going to show you some small steps that can be used to building a positive attitude. The brain is the most powerful organ in the body. It can control your physical body when controlling your inner feelings. So let’s get starting building a positive mind.
Benefits of a positive attitude
- Saving in the energy
- Greater self-control
- Self-esteem
- Higher confidence In yourself and others
- Taking more challenges
- Stress handling
- Better mental and physical health
We can categorize the benefits of a positive attitude to four parts
- Benefits to yourself
- Benefits to your team
- Benefits to your managers and supervisors
- Benefits to your customers and clients
How are negative feelings born?
Anger, frustration, and being upset is the main negative feelings that anyone may have. Those feeling are born because of bad situations and experiences you may face during the day or you faced in the past.so what are those terrible situations and experiences?
- High workload
- Being ill
- Bad time management
- Poor communication
- Lack of social connections
- Being bored
- Bad weather
- Taught rules and regulations
- Family problems
- Relationship problems
- Not being appreciated or never receiving a feedback
Above things are only a few examples.so we are going to learn how to face this lousy situation well and how to remove negative attitudes.
How to deal with negative attitudes
Before building a positive attitude, we must understand our current negative feelings. Here first, we have to identify that our negative attitudes are uncontrollable or controllable. Just take a look at the reasons for having a negative feeling. You may feel all of those reasons are uncontrollable.
As an example, the high workload is uncontrollable; lousy weather is uncontrollable, rules and regulations are uncontrollable. Even those may look uncontrollable we can’t say that those reasons are uncontrollable. Controllability means how we can react to above bad situations and experiences.if we can respond well to a bad situation; that situation becomes controllable. As an example, if we can respond well to the strict rules and regulations, it means we are controlling that bad situation.
Now let’s learn how to deal with a negative situation and negative feeling.
Control your inner voice
Inner voice means the things that you talk with yourself. The way we think determines that how we react to a situation.having a negative feeling or having a positive attitude toward a situation is defined by your inner voice. So this is the first place you have to change. Even you can’t change the situation you may face, and you can control your inner voice. It means you can turn your negative inner voice into a positive inner voice. Let’s go for an example.
Take your bad situations as lousy weather.
When you experience terrible weather, your negative inner voice may say “I am tried with this bad weather. It is going to bring me down. I know that I am going to face a bad day. when this will stop?”
So this is the negative inner voice that you may have in you.this is the feeling you must control at the first place. When you manage this, your attitudes will be different and positive. Take control of your mind and say “it’s going to be a rainy day.never mind. I can have a good day even it is raining outside. Even rain can’t stop me.”
You must train your brain to convert the negative inner voices into a positive inner voice. It may take time. But you will enjoy the benefits without a doubt.
Reframe the situation
There are always two or more ways of looking at things. If you train your brain to control your inner voice, you will get the chance to reframe the situation. Take your situation like bad weather. Now you have a positive inner voice so that you can reframe the situation like this.” There is no such thing as bad weather. It’s all about the clothes I am going to wear. So I am going to wear clothes which can help me to face the weather well, and I am going to have a good day no matter what”.
That is how we reframe.
Identify the window of opportunity.
Imagine that you have started your day with a positive inner voice. But suddenly you got stuck in traffic. Now you can decide to act with stress or understand the situation and react with good thoughts.
“I can’t control the traffic.so I must call my boss and inform that I am going to be late for a few minutes. This is nothing to get stress.”
But trying this method, you will get the answers to face a bad situation well. You will feel calm, and your stress will fade away.
So finally I have to say this.this is a game between you and your mind.always know your self.apprienciate yourself and speak out for yourself.
How understanding stress helps in building a positive attitude?
Stress is not always bad.there are two types of stress. One is eustress. It is suitable for anyone. Other one is distress.when we filled up with distress we can’t even do our regular works. So how this negative stress is born?
The main reason for negative stress is having unrealistic expectations. In our life, we may have different expectations. Some may be achievable, and some maybe not. You have to understand the reality and keep focusing on the achievable ones. Otherwise, you will chase some unrealistic expectations, and you will be fed up. As an example, you have high hope of buying expensive shoes for your kids. But you don’t have enough money. When this expectation continues n your mind, you will see yourself like a looser. So the negative stress is born.
How can we recognize a high level of stress?
Negative things will happen with your psychological, physiological and behavioural parts. Here are the terrible consequences of high-level stress.
- Anxiety
- Low self-esteem
- Frustration
- Family problems
- Drug addiction
- Avoidance
- Eating disorder
- High blood pressure
- Headaches
- Heart diseases etc
Here I am going to give some small tips to avoid this high level of stress.
- Eat healthy foods
- Tak with someone
- Do a sport
- Try meditations
- Get enough sleep
- Give up alcohol and smokes
- Practice excellent time management skills
- Learn to accept
- Agree with someone
- Plan your day
- Know your potential etc
So in these steps, we have identified the stress, reasons for high-level stress and solutions for the stress. So our next steps are to know ourself. It is beneficial to cope with your negative stress. If you know yourself well, you can recognize the negative feelings and correct them.
Know yourself
If you know yourself, your self-confidence automatically gets high. Self-esteem is not the same as overconfidence.self confidence can give you positive feelings and attitudes. Because the person who has high self-confidence can face any challenge.self confidence helps to recognize your weaknesses as well as your strengths.This helps in building a positive attitude.
Know your values
Knowing your values helps to face any difficult situation and difficult people.so what are your core values? People may have multiple benefits that show the life they want to lead.here are some examples of values. Check whether you have these or not.
- Kindness
- Trust
- Selflessness
- Resourcefulness
- Success
- Harmony
- Unity
- Esteem
- Persistence
- Commitment
- Reliability
- Dependability
- Forgiveness
- Insight
- Charity etc
These are only a few, and there are more values that a person may have or a person may achieve. Those will help you to cope with your negative feeling. So knowing your values is a vital part of building a positive attitude.
Identify your goals and objectives.
You may have different goals and objectives. But you have to set goals and objectives which are measurable, achievable, realistic and timed. Otherwise, you may not be able to achieve your goals if they are unachievable and unrealastic.some goals may take a short time to make, and some may take a long time. But you have to keep focusing on both. As an example giving up drugs and alcohol may take time. When you set a goal like that, your inner voice may say “I shall never be able to do that”.Now its time to beat yourself.
Hear the negative voice, recognize it, challenge it and change it.every time you here the negative inner voice you have to challenge it and change it to a positive inner voice.
Think positive
When you set the goals and trying to achieve them, it is essential to have a positive inner voice in our head. Once if you feel negative, that negative feeling will be in your head for a long time. You have to understand that you have the total control of your mouth and your mind. Keep yourself away from the negative thoughts. You have to think positive.it is your responsibility to take control of your life.No one else cannot change your life to good or bad.the things that are happening to you today, is a result of your past decision. So it essential to think positive when building a positive attitude.
How to handle bad feelings?
Having a positive inner voice
As I mentioned before, having a positive inner voice helps you to face any adverse situation. Just read the paragraph about the inner voice and learn how to change your inner voice to a positive one. Because it is important in building a positive attitude.
Controlling how others influence you
Not everyone likes us. Some behaviours or actions may directly have a bad influence on us. But you have to face those well. Otherwise, you will handover the control of your life to others. You have to keep in mind that if you are doing the right thing and a good thing, you don’t need other’s bad reviews on you. Just listen to others. If they have said something perfect only accept it and appreciate it, if they keep trying to pull you down, just avoid them. Don’t let anyone put you down.
Final words
So we have learned the benefits of being positive, how to handle negative emotions, handing stress, understanding yourself and giving lousy feeling so far. All those things can lead you to build a positive attitude, and all the above stuff are about changing yourself. We don’t need to change others.we only need to change our lives to get successful.tehre are more thing you may need to get successful. I am ready to give more articles on these kinds of topics.
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